Follow Yourself and Others will Follow You.
A common an universal question is “Why are we all here?”, “What is the meaning of life?”. I for one, don’t think that the meaning of life as such can ever be conceived, at least not as this stage of human evolution. But one thing I am quite clear about is what we should do whilst we’re here and what our main priority should be.
Developing Your Soul
Now, this is something that’s easily dismissed, especially by those who lack a connection to their inner self, or who don’t feel a connection to the rest of the universe. It’s usually this denial that prevents a deep connection, and the reason for the denial is always simply down fear. Perhaps fear of what others may think (this is a high level fear), perhaps a fear of how you may change (deeper level) or ultimately a fear of what you will find out (I call this a low level fear). However, if you go through life always chasing different people, different goals, different objectives or anything else for that matter, then ultimately you will be unfulfilled, as you’ve never served yourself – chasing anything other than your own personal development is a fruitless task and one that you won’t thank yourself for further down the line.
This may sound selfish to bein with. But in fact, it’s the complete opposite. Once you start taking on board everything as a guide to your own self development, then you start to interact with others with more compassion, more time and more care. To apply compassion to others, first you must start with the most important person, yourself.
If you tackle every task. Every situation. Every point. Every encounter. Every incident in your life as a learning exercise, as “something that needed to happen”, and you accept and embrace whatever you encounter, then you are continually enriching yourself and your connection to everything else. To deny any event, is to fear it, which will only lead to frustration and anger.
By embracing every situation, whether good or bad, you ultimately turn a little of every situation into something good. You develop from it and you learn. This acceptance allows you to connect at a deeper level with what is around you and your life experience as a whole. It allows you to work through what has happened, to understand it with the final goal each time of being grateful for it.
Think of where we are as a society now. We’ve progressed a long way. Sometimes in a way which is ultimately worse than it is good, but still progressed none the less. Think of the medieval ages, how people (and animals) were treated and how countries were run. Compare that to where we are now, and although there’s still a considerable journey to go before a utopia like vision (environment is next on the agenda), it’s a lot of progress.
Now, this may sound obvious, but in everyday life is very easy to forget; but to get where we are now, everything that has happened before now, had to happen as it happened. Otherwise, we’d be somewhere completely different. This applies at the smallest level, as with the famous example of the butterfly effect, where a butterfly flapping it’s wings on one side of the planet can cause a hurricane on the other.
So, apply that to your own life. Everything that has happened to you, needs to have happened for a reason. It may not always be apparent why, and indeed sometimes an event may have occurred simply for others to learn from it, or to take solitude from it rather than yourself. BUT, your job is to identify that reason, learn to understand it, accept it and ultimately embrace it. This leads to a much deeper understanding of life and our existence.
Once you do that, you begin to become thankful for everything. Every event is a blessing and you start to absolve and distance yourself from suffering on a higher spiritual level.
Do what you Need to do
As soon as you feel an event, a person or a thing taking over your life & taking away from yourself. Distance yourself from it mentally. Bring yourself back to you. Take some deep breaths, remember that you’re here for you and that you don’t need to cling onto other things to grow. Instead you need to let go of them.
This also applies to what you do in everyday life. People are all too often concerned with what others are thinking of them (or at least what they perceive they are thinking, which is usually totally wrong), what they feel they should be doing (as taught by society, through childhood or just by following the crowd) and non existent constrictions or barriers in their mind. You need to ultimately drop and disconnect from all that and connect with your true self.
What do you feel like doing today? Not, what does Jim want you to do? Often saying “Yes”, can mean saying “No” to yourself. Don’t say “No” to yourself, it’s bad for your mind and bad for the soul.
What do you really want to say to that person? Don’t hold back because society dictates it. Say how you feel about a situation and release the pressure.
When things no longer work. When there’s no connection for you, drop it. Move on to pastures new.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but follow what you are passionate about (without too much thought), and good things will happen. Good things will fall into place and all the weight you once carried will lift. Most of that weight is induced by not diving in and following your heart in the first place. Free yourself.
Do these things, learn, accept, embrace and follow your heart. Succeed at doing those, and you my friend, are enlightened. “Light” – it’s in the word.