This morning I dropped the kids off at school, like I normally do, but for the first time in many months I don’t need to pick them up after school. Today, instead, that job is falling to their Grandma, because they’re going to their Mums for the night. Now, normally I look after my children from Monday till Friday and they visit their Mum from Saturday to Sunday, but arrangements change and I’m faced with a day where I can dedicate myself to work and Getting Shit Done. There’s just one problem; I can’t bring myself to do it.
Don’t Force it
I could either tackle this situation like I MUST do the work. I MUST be productive and I MUST spend my time doing things that I’ve meant to do for the past few days. However, if I did any of that I would be filling my mind with “Must Dos“, stressing myself and forcing myself into the work; that’s not a good place to be. Now, I must stress that this isn’t the same as me simply Not Wanting to Do Something and coming up with excuses (rather than accepting is as a challenge) – that’s a different sensation altogether – that is fear and anxiety based, while this isn’t, it’s just that I don’t feel the time is right to do it – something isn’t sitting right and, in a instinctive and intuitive way, I feel like there’s other things I need to do first. And when that happens, you really need to do those other things first – even if you don’t realise what they are.
How to Realise What Really Needs to be Done
The way to realise what you need to do, is to completely relax into the situation you face. If you let go of all the “Must dos” or the “I have to do this” from your mind and instead just reconnect with your feelings, and your emotions, then you slowly realise exactly what you need to do. Often if I do this, I’ll remember something hideously important that I need to get done, but what my stressing mind was masking from me. Other times I’ll feel the need to do something creative (such as writing this blog post). Doing this task will then either free up your mental capacity, so that you can effortlessly move onto the next task or it will empower you and enlighten your mind to the present moment.
Which ever of these things happen, you can then grab that energy and move onto the next job. You’ll soon find that maybe after doing a few things that you felt needed to be done (even without realising it), you’ll have started on the work that your mind was telling you “HAD TO BE DONE”. Our minds often deceive us, and in times like this, it’s just better to let go and let your intuition guide you to your destination.
The two alternatives to this are;
- Force the work upon you
If you force the work upon yourself, it’s likely that you won’t succeed in accomplishing it, or you’ll do it so inefficiently, that you may as well have spent the extra time doing what you felt like doing in the first place. Our feelings tell us a lot, and we should listen to them all the time. We should fully accept them and embrace them. Once you trust in your feelings then you trust in yourself.
The alternative is to get stuck in an episode of stress related procrastination. This is where you haven’t committed to doing the work, nor have you committed to letting go and doing whatever it is you need to do first. This is the worst state to be, because it’s not really beneficial for anyone. Yourself especially.
So, if in doubt. Accept. Let go.