You just need to fully accept it.
Something I often find myself doing, is trying to alter my frame of mind, or thinking that I need to be thinking/acting in a certain way to get the best out of myself, be productive or be appropriate for whatever moment I find myself in. Attempting this, is a huge mistake. In fact trying to conform to any state of mind that you are not currently feeling, can, and usually does, have the opposite effect to allowing you to interact with the present moment.
Whenever you think about acting in a different manner or thinking in a different way – perhaps how you felt last Tuesday when you were blazing through a piece of work, or turning heads in a important meeting – you’re not being in the present moment. You’re trying to be in a moment from the past. This has the effect of disengaging you from your current activity and give you the complete opposite experience to what you were hoping for.
A better strategy, and indeed, a strategy that you should always follow is to embrace yourself and your present state, whatever it is. Follow yourself and don’t let any outside influence or people, change you from that perspective.
When you do this, you connect deeply with your current feelings and you can work through them, or just interact with the world, whilst experiencing them. In that way you are not denying yourself, you are not trying to conform with the way that you think the world needs you to be. You are simply conforming with your feelings, and this in it very self puts you in a position of power. Whenever you disconnect from your current state of mind, you’re essentially telling yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling like this, or that you could be doing better – you’re being negative with yourself, which makes you feel bad (although you may not know it) and that doesn’t help any situation.
If you take the course of embracing yourself, your feelings, your current surroundings, then you re-engage with yourself and re-engage with the world around you. As soon as you’re feeling your current self, your current state of mind, then you don’t find yourself locked in a stuck moment, where you’re not getting things done and where you’re not being productive (which leads to procrastination). Instead you’re in your current self and you are ready to engage with the world. Trust what you’re thinking and your positive feeling decisions (remember you don’t know where each one will lead, so don’t try and analyse the afterthoughts of it too much), and realise that how you are feeling is exactly how you need to be for the current moment, whether you realise it or not (you will later).
The important thing is to trust yourself and embrace it. Don’t fight it, that just causes conflict. Embrace it, accept yourself, accept everything that has brought you to this point and accept whatever is thrown your way going forward, without expectations for what that might be.
If you do this, then you might just tackle everything with a clear and fresh perspective and free yourself from being bogged down in the past or not engaging with the present moment; as you feel that it could be better. It can only be better if you accept it, engage it and embrace it.
500 Word Challange
This post actually came around from me embracing my current state, trusting my current decision making process, and deciding to plunge into the 500 Word Challenge. Take a look yourself and commit to writing 500 words per day. If it’s not for you, seek out a new challenge and plunge it. It’s a positive decision that can lead to only a positive outcome. Stop daydreaming, and just get started.