If you’re the sort of person that easily labels certain types of advice as nonsense, put that part of your personality aside for a second and read this… it works.
These are probably the three most important words that I can provide you with;
Relax, Now, Decide
These three words will help you overcome confusion, a clouded mind, stress and anxiety. Although it might take a little bit of practice on your part.
Ultimately following these three words will lead you to enjoying your current situation more and being able to take control of your next action.
Here’s what to do when you next feel confused or stressed; Following these steps. – you don’t need to rush through them, take your time…
Just breathe (just do it, I know how all this might sound).. slowly, feel your shoulders drop and just take in your surroundings. In doing so, let your stresses fizzle away as they’re simply not important at the moment. They’re acting as a cloud in your mind and having a negative effect on your judgement. Thinking about and reacting to them is certainly not helping yourself or anyone else for that matter.
If stresses or thoughts pop into your head, just acknowledge them, and let them drift by. Don’t take further thoughts or actions based on them.
Relaxing should allow you to feel more “in the present”, so that you can focus on whatever you’re currently doing. Perhaps think of the feeling you get when you’re stunned by a beautiful scene or landscape…. Listen to the wind (stay with me!), focus on what’s happening now, who you are with and the activity you are engaged in.. Give it your total mind.
Don’t think about the future or past. If thoughts may pop into your head concerning them, just acknowledge them as before, but don’t peruse them or react to them.
Now you are in the present, carry on with what ever you’re doing. If you’re out for a walk, enjoy it. If you’re playing with your kids, have fun. You should be able to engage in your current activity to a much fuller extent now that stresses are not at the forefront of your mind.
Once you feel ready (this will come to you naturally, don’t force it), it’s time to take control of your next course of action. It’s time to tackle whatever was causing you stress, anxiety or clouding your mind, but only by making a decision to do 1 thing (reply to an email that you’ve been putting off perhaps or finish a report you’ve been meaning to do), and 1 thing only. Once you’ve decided what to do, do it. If you still can’t decide what this is, it’s likely that you already know what it should be, you just need to commit. Once you do this, you’ll feel instantly relieved and in a better position to follow your course of action.
Put fears and anxieties about the decision aside, and get on with it. Once you’ve decided, allow yourself to be happy with the decision.
Once you’ve completed the first task, you’ve taken a step to eliminate your stress and you’ll probably feel compelled to carry on fixing the problem. Before you know it, the stress will be gone for good.
Now whenever you feel grabbed by stress, confusion or anxiety. Just follow the Relax, Now Decide sequence again and get on path to eliminating your stresses.