When it comes to Fear & Anxiety, what you see in the future, is ultimately a fear and what you’ve experienced in the past can fester as an anxiety. You need to tackle these, but denial or blocking it out should play no part in this process.
Future fears are usually brought upon us due to past memories of how something similar panned out. Maybe something from our childhood, maybe something from your recent past. The thing is, and it’s an important thing, no 2 events are the same. In fact each event needs to be approached completely fresh and with 100% conviction to get the most out of it. The way I do this is to embrace everything that I fear as a challenge.
What do you think of challenges? If you enjoy them you’re half way there already. If you don’t then you should learn to. All of us are going to die, that’s a fact, and so there really is no point nitpicking over things or ummming and erming over what you think you should do. What is most fulfilling? a life of regrets or a life of accomplishments? The key is to embrace your current state and do what you deep down feel you need to do. You won’t regret it, and ultimately good things will come from it, especially things you don’t expect to come from it. As soon as you start enjoying challenges, you can apply this to any future fear and tackle it head on. Accept it, accept whatever may happen and embrace it. Once you’ve allowed yourself to embrace it, the weight of it should lift off your mind and you can tackle it in due course.
Don’t Deny it
Whenever you start denying things to yourself, you’re ultimately cheating yourself and worst of all you know it. This leads you to distrust yourself and everything becomes harder, bigger and scarier. When you accept your future, your past and your current, you empower yourself, you believe in yourself and you allow yourself to deal with whatever you’re facing. Embrace how you feel about it, embrace what you think about it, and allow yourself to realise that you don’t know what will happen – 100% of what you think is purely a thought, a fiction, and usually one that doesn’t sway in your favour – then you should be able to tackle it when it comes. You can then drop it from your current state of mind.
When it comes to things from the past affecting your current state of mind. You have only one, very clear option;
Doing anything else, solves absolutely no purpose.
One very important point to consider here is the fact that most things you think, are not actually how they seem, or even how they appear to others. You need to remember that 100% of what you think is purely that, a thought. It’s something you’ve constructed in your mind. You’ve gauged how critical you think something is, maybe how you think somebody feels about you and let me tell you, at least 85% of the time, you’ve got it wrong (or distorted at the very least), and things are no where near as bad as you think. In fact it’s usually the opposite. If you think that something you’ve done in the past was a bad idea, it’s usually exactly what you needed to do, and may have shown others a side of you they needed to see.
So. Allow yourself to drop it, accept that you can’t change it, and ultimately everything happens for a reason. The only way to tackle it, is in fact to move forward and pave yourself a future that you want.